lumosexualagenda:

loudestcrowdever:

voroxpete:

strongforanother:

fandomsandfeminism:

I think we really need to reaffirm now that no amount of homophobia can be acceptable in our culture. There is no such this as harmless or victimless homophobia. All homophobia contributes to violence against us. You can not “disagree” with lgbt people’s “lifestyles” without supporting the rhetoric and legislation that puts us in very real danger.

Homophobia isn’t that black and white though. You can hate the sin and still love the sinner. 

OK, as a queer person who grew up in a genuinely loving, caring, utterly wonderful, and still deeply homophobic Church, let me try to fill in what you’re not understanding about this whole “Love the sinner” deal.

When we refer to people like you as “Homophobic” I want to be clear what we’re saying here.  This is not a judgment of your intent.  We are not describing you as a hateful person, as an aggressive or violent person.  But we are saying that your actions and your attitudes participate in and reinforce a system of rhetoric that encourages violence against LGBT people, and, far, far more importantly, that forces millions of LGBT people to live in shame.

That’s really what this comes down to.  Not hate.  Not violence.  Shame.

Consider the point purely theologically.  Jesus tells us that to desire a sinful thing is as bad as to act on that desire.  My lusting after another mans wife is as bad as actually sleeping with her.  My genuine desire to hurt someone is as bad as actually hurting them.

So when you tell me that loving another man is a sin, you’re not just talking about physical acts of intimacy.  You don’t get to draw the line there.  You don’t get to pretend that I can be bisexual so long as I never actually physically act on it (which is already a terrible burden to place on someone).  You’re saying that every time I look at a guy and imagine how soft his lips would be, or think about how beautiful his eyes are, I am sinning.  I am a sinner every time a dude walks past me with a tight sweater on that shows of his arms.  Every time he has nice hair or a nice smile.

My love, according to you, is a sin.  That is the burden you are forcing people to live under.  That burden forced me so deep into the closet that I didn’t even know I was there.  It forced me to repress every genuine feeling of sexual attraction for other men, and to live for years with those feelings straining to get out, whilst I struggled with the constant guilt and shame that came from having those thoughts.

And I am one of the lucky ones, because I’m alive to have this conversation.  Because for many, many LGBT people that guilt and shame manifests as self-harm, substance abuse, low esteem that leads them into abusive relationships, and very often suicide.

You tell yourself that you’re one of the good ones because you don’t hate us.  You only hate what we “do”.  But what we “do” is living.  It’s being alive and whole and a part of this world, and if you genuinely believe that we can’t have that then you might as well put the gun to our heads and pull the trigger.  Because you’re already doing that, you just don’t have the guts to admit it.

“You only hate what we do, but what we do is living”
Wow. This is beautiful and so well written

This is why it’s so important to distinguish prejudice from structural oppression. It’s not just hurtful words - it’s about contributing to a system that actively disadvantages us.  

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The shooting in Orlando is a sobering reminder that we have to keep fighting for so much more. It wasn’t just about marriage. It’s not about bathrooms. LGBTQ people are still being killed or pushed to suicide just for existing. Some things are better for us under the law, but that doesn’t mean we are seen as equal citizens. As equal humans. More than 50 people were killed because the shooter saw two men kissing. I have never been able to kiss someone I loved in public because I am afraid. I have never been able to hold hands in public because I didn’t feel safe doing that. June is pride month. It is the month when we remember those who were killed, brutally beaten, wished and sometimes actively removed from existence. The gay liberation movement started in 1969. But It is not over. We fight not because we want to, but because we must. We live. We love. And we will always remember.

1-800youwish:

why is being called gay an insult?? being called straight is an insult. faking orgasms, matching disney sweaters, meninists. horrifying.

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So tumblr is asking for me to change my password. Fair. The only problem is that the email attached to my blog is my undergrad email that I no longer have access to. I can only access this blog through the app.

So my new blog is @proverbialvigilante2.

I just created it so there isn’t much there, but I will be fixing it up tonight. :)